Family is extremely important, especially when you have children. It’s important that everyone loves and appreciates one another. Now, daughters they can be a little tricky. I don’t want to say it but, girls have a tender heart, especially once the begin entering their teen years. Mine does anyway, lol. Keeping a good, open, and honest relationship is important.
Having a relationship with your daughter(s) is important, regardless of if their 22 or 2. They need mom in their life, and mom needs them! It’s a two-way street! The needs become different, the older the get the more they need a friend, someone to talk to that doesn’t judge, and someone to hug them when their sad. Honestly I prefer the 2-year-old needs, mom get me this, let me sit in your lap, hold me, play with me. It’s often hard to talk about boys with my daughter, but I do it because I know there’s no magic bubble that I can put her in, and send her back 7 years. I guess the fact is, we grow with them.
Most of you know I have 3 girls! I know right, how does dad do it! They are all super beautiful too! My girls range from 13 all the way down to 2, yet we’re a close family and have so much fun together. The difference in ages doesn’t cause problems, we’re still able to go out and have fun. It’s important to all of us to stay connected, in one way or another. I was looking at my oldest the other day, man it hit me like a ton of rocks! She so pretty, growing up, and now more than ever I need to be sure and hold on to our relationship. So I have come up with a few things we all do together that make our relationship stronger.
Laugh – Laugh with your children daily, over and over! Doesn’t matter what you laugh about. Pick on dad because he looks funny. Okay don’t pick on dad, tell little jokes. You know your family. What makes them smile?
Hug – Hug daily. Do it just because, you’ll be surprised the smile it puts off. There’s nothing better thank you 13-year-old daughter hugging you because she still loves you, or your 2-year-old because she missed you. It’s the same all the way around, laugh long, and hug often. Always huge your children before leaving. Let them know you love them, and miss them when you’re not with them. If it’s not something you’re currently doing start. Your teenager might look at you like you’re crazy, but before you know it everyone will offer a huge before they walk out the door.
Say I love you – Actions speak louder than words, but I love you is one of the most powerful, heart-felt things you can say. You love them, tell them! My daughter told me once that she was getting too old to say I love you in front of her friends. I tried to be understanding, but I guess this look came over me. She told me she was just kidding, but I understand I was her age once too. Which takes me to my next point!
Understand – It’s hard being a kid. You remember don’t you? WOW, it’s worse now. Have to wear these shoes, pants, blah blah blah, to be “cool”. It’s not the way it should be, but it is! Understand what you’re children deal with and do what you can to help them avoid being picked on. There’s no, well it’s too bad! Being picked on sucks! Don’t you remember?
Do something – There’s always something to do! Go for a walk, movies, lay down in bed and watch some TV together, talk, play a game, lay out and look at the stars, talk about your hope and dreams.. Yes, we really do that, and I learn so much about my oldest daughter, she doesn’t even realize it. Small activities that involve talking with your children, helps you get to know them. They change so fast, don’t get away from those small talks. It’s hard sometimes, you head to work for 10 hours, come home cook dinner, do homework, life takes over. Leave time for talking, do it while you’re cooking, get creative. Don’t loose the communication with your children.
These things are all small things that take up hardly any time, do them! Time passes us by and before you know it, your child will be moving out! WOW, where did all that time go. Don’t live with I should have, do it! We are part of who they become, and that’s serious stuff. That’s the most important job I have ever been responsible for. It’s more than putting a roof over their head, feeding, and bathing. It’s understanding, being there, going out of your way for, trusting, and loving unconditionally.
Being a parent is one of the most gratifying jobs, yes sometimes the most stressful. However, I believe that’s why the rewards is worth so much. It’s those things that require work that mean the most. I love my gals!