I was talking to my younger sister about this post, I wasn’t sure what direction I wanted to go with it – share a recipe, tell you why I’m proud of my husband or something else. So I asked my younger sister for her opinion, and she asked me if she could write a letter to my husband and me to share with you. I love the idea, because it’s truly from the heart, and I’m not going to lie, like many other parents, it’s nice to have someone remind you that you are “Doin’ Good”. It’s so easy to be hard on yourself, especially when it comes your children because you want to do everything perfect – have enough time, make the perfect dinner, take the perfect vacation, etc. but it doesn’t always happen that way. It’s easy to get caught up in what didn’t happen instead of focusing on the good.
The above picture is my beautiful sister, so you know who she is if you haven’t already seen pictures of her on the blog.
My Sister Reminds Me I’m Doin’ Good as a Parent
Hello, my lovely sister. This is a letter to simply tell you all the things I have wanted to, but never really had the time. Plus, with a letter you have to read it, without interrupting me! Don’t worry – it isn’t a bad letter. It’s a letter to tell you how I feel about you and how much I admire you.
First off, we both know that our younger years weren’t the best between the two of us. We both were pretty blinded by our selfishness. I know I failed to see how important you are in my life. I am so thankful now that we have become such amazing friends and you are a part of my life. I am also incredibly thankful that I can be a part of your children’s lives. They are truly amazing kids and they have all that to thank you for. You are an amazing person and it has come through in your motherhood as well.
I remember you always saying that you didn’t want children and that you never saw yourself ever changing. Luckily, you met your husband and his kids definitely changed you. I respect you so much for stepping up and becoming the mother they never had. You met those children when they were very young, and even with one of them being handicapped, you just smiled and did what you had to do. You became their everything and continue to be their all.
Then you had a child of your own to join your already wonderful family. This just added to the love and affection that shines through to those children. I hate to see when you get frustrated with yourself because you feel you aren’t doing enough or you are doing something wrong. I wish you could see your actions through my eyes. Those children are your number 1 priority and you are hard on yourself. They are wonderful children with more than we had growing up.
It reminds me of our Mom when we were young. She tended to be hard on herself also when things would go wrong. But, you can agree that our Mom was amazing, right? Well, you are your mother’s daughter and you have become an awesome mother all your own. So, just like we tell Mom to take a break and be proud of who we have become, because she raised us, you need to do the same.
I am amazed at how much you do for your kids and still keep it together in your life, too. You work continuously and nonstop, but you never hesitate to break from your work the second those children need something. You set aside time every day for them. You left your career and started a new one just so you could be at home with them. You are making huge life decisions so your children will have the best childhood that they can possibly have. Like you said, “I want them to have a childhood like we had!”
Do you ever stop and tell yourself, “I’m doing one hell of a job, and I’m adulating it like crazy!” I think you should remind yourself every morning when you wake up that you are an amazing mother, a fantastic wife, and the single most awesome sister. And, before you go to sleep, when/if you do lol, tell yourself that you did the best you could that day and you will do better tomorrow.
I don’t have children yet and my nieces and nephews have become my life. I learn so much from them every day and I learn even more from you. I hope that I take everything that you have shown me about being a mother and hold it dear. Because I want to be the same kind of mother to my children. I want to be their world, like you are to your children. When I see them look at you, it’s with the most incredible love that I have yet to experience. But you have that every day and remember, those children love you so much because of the amazing person you are to them and to everyone. They see you smile even when you are not happy, they see you laugh when you want to scream, and they see you care for everyone, even strangers. By doing for them and by showing them, you are teaching them how to be amazing human beings. You need to remember that you are the best thing in those children’s lives and though you are not perfect, you are doing more than your best.
I admire you Jenn. I wanted to write this to express what I see and feel every day without you trying to stifle my praises. You definitely aren’t a braggart and you don’t take compliments very well, so by writing this means you HAD to read it and couldn’t butt in to stop me. I love you, Jennifer, and I am so thankful each and every day that you are a part of my life again and you allow your amazing family to let me in their lives, too.
Thank you for everything you have done, all that you do, and each thing that you will do in the future. Remember you are incredible and those children could not have asked for a better mom, nor would they want anyone else but you. And I would never ask for anyone else to be my sister. You are my best friend, my biggest fan, and my largest supporter and I thank you with all of my being for helping me to build myself each day into the person I am meant to be.
Always your sister,
Forever your fan,
Lorena a.k.a. Auntie Rema, BeBe
Okay, so I admit it, I am still crying. It feels good for someone to take the time of their day to remind you that you’re doing good, which is what Minute Maid wants to help parents realize. Thank you my amazing sister for your kind words and helping I remember to focus on things I can control, the brighter side of things, and thank you for being there to remind me what “Doin’ Good” is about.
I honestly can’t tell you what color my childhood bike was or even the what brand it was, but I do remember my dad teaching me to ride without training wheels. Doin’ Good is the little things, and it’s nice to have someone stop and tell you the things you’re doin’ good from time to time. It helps keep me grounded and reminds me what’s really important.
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