Being the mother of twins is no easy task. Twice the labor when they were born, and twice the labor as they grow up. You experience twice the diapers, twice the teething, twice the puberty, twice the college tuition, and twice the birthday celebration.
Preparing a birthday party for twins sounds easy enough. You can have one birthday party for two people. That’s one time you have it easier by having twins, right? Wrong. Moms of twins are sensitive to the fact that their children want to be treated as individuals. They may share the same birthday but not the same passions, hobbies, friends, or personalities. A two-for-one birthday may only work until the twins are old enough to have an opinion. With that stipulation, you have two years, tops.
From then on you will need to have a strategy for birthday parties. Some basic things to consider early in the life of your twins are traditions surrounding their birthday. Will there be a combined party or two separate parties? Will you require them to agree upon a single theme, or will they alternate who gets to choose the theme each year? For the sake of space, the rest of this post will focus on those of you who choose to have the combined party. You can do it all yourself, have some basic help, or host a full service shindig.
If you do it yourself, consider having the party at a park. This allows each of your kids to invite friends without worrying about space. You can individualize the celebration by having a separate cake for each child based on their preference. They feel special, blow out their own candles, and you have plenty of cake for all the guests. Grill hot dogs and make it a picnic, or plan some games and only provide cake. At the park you don’t have to worry about spills or noise. Let them be kids.
If you would rather not do all the planning and entertaining, have the party at a location both kids enjoy. There is an entire industry of birthday party locations for kids. Inflatable gyms, laser tag, gymnastics events, roller rinks, miniature golf, pizza and ticket-producing games, trampoline rooms, and little girl spas. Let your twins individualize with cakes and guest lists, and let the staff of the party venue worry about the entertainment.
On milestone birthdays, you might splurge for a full service party. Rent a venue and pay for catering, Austin DJ’s, and a video of their life up to this point. With party catering, Austin becomes a celebration location you can enjoy because you don’t have to do anything but show up and enjoy your children.
Some mothers of twins worry about party guests feeling obligated to bring two gifts. One particular mom encouraged guests to bring canned food in lieu of gifts and then had the twins accompany her to a local food bank. How you choose to address the issue is up to you, but be aware of the dilemma for guests.
Twins are twice the celebration, but their parties need not be twice the work.