As a mother with three girls raising confident girls is something I spend a lot of time thinking about, especially as they get older. How I wish being a confident girl in the world was easy. Sadly, it’s not, and the last thing any parent wants to see is their child without confidence at such a young age. Which is why I’m excited to partner with Dove™ to share their new #LoveYourHair campaign! It’s the perfect opportunity to talk about things we can do to raise confident girls! Be sure to read to the end of this post to learn more about the Dove™ #LoveYourHair campaign.
I believe as parents we can play a huge part in our children’s confidence and here are a few things I do to help my girls with their confidence.
- Make it okay to express feelings – I still have a hard time talking about how something makes me feel. It’s something I have struggled with my whole life but something I have worked hard to leave in the past because I want my girls to know it’s okay to express and talk about your feelings.
- Talk about mistakes, learn from them, and know it’s okay to laugh at yourself now and again – Self-images is huge as a girl. You want to do everything correct and be liked by everyone, but it’s just not the way the world works. I want my kids to understand that making mistakes is part of life, it’s what helps us learn and grow and even have a good laugh now and again. One of my favorite quotes is by Michael Jordan, “I’ve failed over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
- Push them to step out of their comfort zone – There is nothing comfortable about stepping out of your comfort zone and trying something new but if we avoid stepping out of our comfort zone we hold ourselves back.
- Allow them to be their own person and voice their opinion – Let your child choose what clothes they want to wear (age appropriate), dress themselves, choose activities, etc. Give them a chance to make decisions and let them try new things.
- Know your daughter – Make time to talk to your daughter and listen to what is going on her life. Asking how their day at school was can turn into a conversation about something they need support, guidance, or just to get off their chest.
- Notice when something is bothering them and ask – If you see something is bothering your daughter make sure and ask. Sometimes we all just need to know that someone notices and cares that we are upset.
- Let them hear you talk about them to other adults – Something I’ve noticed makes my kids feel on top of the world is when they hear me talking to another adult about them. Of course, this needs to focus on the great things they are doing.
- Start early – The sooner you start building confidence the better.
- Ask them to help you – Asking them to help you with something shows that you have confidence in them and their abilities which of course helps them feel more confident.
- Make sure they know you are always there and love them unconditionally – Remind your children that you will be there for them no matter what. During the good and the bad, you will always love them, even when they make mistakes.
- Celebrate the good stuff – Make sure to notice the good stuff too. If your child brings home a progress report with one D and two A’s, don’t just gripe at them for the D, notice the A’s too. Talk to them about the D and celebrate the A’s because they are obviously giving 100% in those classes.
- Is your glass half full or half empty – Remember there is almost always a positive side to things, it’s how you look at them. My mom used to tell me this all the time, it took me a long time to learn what she was trying to say but once I got it my whole outlook on life changes. So even if you don’t think your child is getting it, remember lead by example because they likely will one day, and it can be life changing.
- Be a good role model – I think the most important thing we can do is show our kids. Be a good role model. This is defiantly not an area you can say do as I say, not as I do. If you are not confident, strong, willing to step out of your comfort zone, laugh when you make a mistake and ready to learn you can’t expect them to if all you do is tell them. Let them see you be and do!
- Don’t raise them to please everyone – Help your daughter understand that you cannot always please everyone and you should always stand up for what you believe in. Allow them to use their voice at home, if they don’t agree it should be okay for them to speak up and say something.
- Help them, don’t do it for them – Give them the chance and guidance they need to solve problems on their own and not fixing them for them.
- Teach them how to proactive good hygiene – I tell my kids all the time that beauty comes from within. They don’t have to pile on makeup or wear certain clothing to be beautiful, but they do need to be clean and have everything they need to practice good hygiene.
- Celebrate what god gave them – Celebrate their beautiful face, personality, long eyelashes, beautiful hair, etc. Don’t focus on makeup and things that change their appearance, focus on what they were born with. We want them to love who they are from their hair down to their feet! Yes, hair does matter. Did you know that Dove™ Hair found that eight out of ten women feel pressure to wear their hair a certain way? For many people, the pressure started at an early age. Well, Dove™ Hair being the excellent brand they are believes that a positive role model can impact a girl’s confidence. In a study by Dove™ they found that 82% of girls learn to care for themselves from their mother.
- Tell her – As a mother, we do make a difference and help ensure that our kids grow up feeling confident. By celebrating your daughter’s hair today, you can help her love it tomorrow.
Dove™ #LoveYourHair Campaign
Tell her you to love her hair by heading over to the fun website Dove™ Hair is hosting and personalize your mom/daughter’s photo with creative text and images to share on social networks. To learn more about the visit LoveYourHair.com.
This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Dove™.