Sometimes, when we meet someone, we talk about stuff we don’t mean. We may imply cliché bars into our speech, try to be fake wise, or simply repeat something we heard from our parents and never thought into.
It’s good to say that sometimes, silence is golden. But if you want to earn that second date or want to remember how to seduce your wife, stop saying these deadbeat sexist, stereotypical phrases.
“A woman must listen to her man”
First of all, we don’t talk about pets, so your girl doesn’t owe you anything, as well as you don’t owe her anything. If it contradicts your mentality, I am sorry, but no women like hearing that. A woman must listen to her man only if there is objective knowledge he obtains and may share. But men don’t know how to “live life” better than women do. This is subjective knowledge and accepting it is optional. Everything should be presented in a friendly manner, not as a lecture or a threat. Yes, taking responsibility is good if we talk about chivalry (although, not every girl likes that). But leaving her no options, you will sound like a tyrant and a caveman.
“All girls are the same”
Aw, we are sorry you stumbled upon twenty not decent people. Can you stop projecting your hate? Listen, if you have the same problems with different women, it talks about you having certain issues. It’s only you who subliminally asks for the same type of girls. And this applies to everyone. You are not that unique, so it means you are a bad type for someone too. If you choose thin money-hungry girls with fake lips but never tried dating a plump, homely girl, what are you talking about? It tells a girl that you have a type and they should not fix your problems. So before even thinking these aggressive thoughts, try to take a deep look into your mentality.
“It’s a dude thing, you won’t understand”
How can thoughts be assigned to one gender? This phrase in itself is very toxic and degrading, and nobody would like hearing that. If she doesn’t like bowling, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t understand it because she’s a girl. There are tons of girls who like bowling, football, and beer. If you choose a topic where your date does not know of, don’t be judgmental, trying to explain it with gender difference. If somebody talks about cardiac surgeries, and adds, “this is just a smart people’s thing, you won’t understand”, that should be painful. And women can be scholars too. They can speak about complicated things that don’t involve makeup. Don’t make yourself a bigger fool. Don’t forget men don’t know about cars, physics, and astronomy either.
“It’s a female responsibility”
Doing chores is for everyone. When you leave alone, you still clean your home, right? How can some things, like cooking, be assigned to women, and other things, like laundry, be a male thing? So you think a girl is that weak to hold a hammer? If you weren’t that stuck up, you would realize women secretly know how to do everything an average male is capable of, including fixing electricity. And when you get acquainted with a girl, saying that chores are not a male’s responsibility, but you still are technically single, she will think, “Wow, he must’ve lived in the dirt for a long time now”. I doubt that anyone would want to agree with a sexist dictator. She will pass on that.
“Who if not me?”
When it comes to a first date, a lot of guys like to be heroes, thinking that if it wasn’t for them, their parents would be homeless, their boss would be fired, and so on. It sounds very self-assured and stuck up, to begin with. If people say, “What would I do without you?” it doesn’t mean they would die without your precious help. Unless you’ve actually saved someone’s life, but that is a weird topic to bring up during the first date as well. So cut your hero complex and humble up!