The moment you find out you’re pregnant, your world as you know it is going to be turned upside down and everything will be revolved around the baby. Knowing that, what better reason you can come up with to let someone throw you the most fabulous baby shower ever! Becoming a parent is quite expensive. From diapers and bottles to the baby crib and stroller, the equipment and supplies needed for parenthood can and will put a nice dent in your pockets… The wonderful thing about baby showers is that they’re celebrated to help alleviate the financial stress that comes with being a new parent.
The Modern Mother-to-Be and Her Baby Shower
Although baby showers are meant to be a financial stress reliever for the mother-to-be, she still wants to be included in the planning of the baby shower a little… this is especially the case for modern mothers-to-be. There’s no true, definite definition of a modern mother-to-be but in a nutshell, the modern mother-to-be is someone who is used to being in control of a lot of aspects in her life and her baby shower is an area that she has to give the control over to someone else but has a hard time doing so.
It’s not an absolute struggle for the expectant mother but she is also someone who, before getting pregnant, likes things a certain way and she just wants to make sure her baby shower will be the way she wants it to be and not being able to fully control that makes her anxious and brings about questions that she’s concerned about. Let’s take a look at some of the biggest concerns that the modern mother-to-be faces.
“Who should throw my baby shower?”
As a modern mother-to-be who’s comfort zone involves being in control, this is a typical question she would be concerned with when the real question should be “who is throwing my baby shower?” A baby shower really isn’t something that you pick and choose someone to be part of like you would ask someone to be part of your wedding party. It’s also not something that’s just designated to a particular person either. A baby shower is typically thrown by someone close to you like a close friend or family member, voluntarily.
“Who will I invite to my baby shower?”
This is actually an area where the expectant mom will actually have a little more control over. Once she knows who is throwing her baby shower, she can then provide a list of names and addresses to the host to invite the people she wants to attend. Typically, the only people that need to be in attendance at your baby shower is close friends and family members. This ensures that everyone truly is able to share the joy of the new baby with you.
Now, whether you choose to invite co-workers and other people that aren’t in your close-knit circle, that’s completely up to you but you definitely want your closest family and friends in attendance. You will actually probably have more than one baby shower because your co-workers will probably throw you one as well so keep that in mind too when it comes to your invitations.
“How can I have the baby shower I want without hurting the host’s feelings?”
This question probably sounds very self-absorbed but it’s truly a real concern that expectant mothers have. In your mind, the mother-to-be should be grateful that someone is even willing to throw them a baby shower in the first place, right? Well, this is true but sometimes this concern isn’t even coming from a selfish point of view.
What if the mother-to-be wants the shower to be very traditional and wants only the simplest touches? She would need to let the host know that because it would really save lots of money on baby shower essentials. To appease a mother-to-be who wants this type of baby shower, the host would only need to buy those cute handcrafted diaper cakes, balloons, and cupcakes… you may find it hard to believe but not all expectant moms are into the glitz and glam that baby showers can turn into… for some moms, it’s more about the experience and the people there.
The baby shower is essentially for you and the baby so there’s nothing wrong with letting the host know what you want at the baby shower and how you want things to go. parents.com states that there is a certain etiquette to hosting baby showers and that the host of the baby shower actually should be very open to the expectant mother’s suggestions.
A baby shower’s main focus is the mother and the baby so why not take into consideration what the expectant mother wants?