When you think of the life you want your child to have, it probably involves them going to college and then getting a white collar job that will earn money and power they need to live the life you feel they ought to have.
This ideal is commendable, but life often doesn’t work out like that. There will be lots of bumps in the road, including your child’s own decisions. If they don’t want to go to college then you can’t (and shouldn’t try to) force them.
College isn’t the perfect option for every kid, but it can be hard for you as a parent to accept that. Here are some tips on how you can be supportive if one of your children tells you that they don’t want to go to college.
Talk To Them Calmly
It’s easy to panic when your child tells you something you don’t want to hear, but it’s important that you stay calm so that you can talk about the issue through sensibly. The reason might be fixable, such as a fear of moving far from home or the cost. It might simply be that your child already has an alternative plan in mind. Whatever their reasons, you should talk to them calmly and respectfully, so that they know they can rely on your support.
Help Them To Create A Plan
If your child is set on not going to college, then they need to have a plan. They can’t just sit around and wait for inspiration to strike, so you should help them to create a plan. It might change, so just create a rough idea. Push them to research the ways they can earn the career they want, so that they can get started as soon as possible.
Give Them Support As They Earn The Qualifications They Need
Even if your child isn’t going to college, they’ll probably still need to earn qualifications to get their dream career or start their own business. If your child didn’t want to go to college, then the chances are that they struggle with studying, so read these study strategies to help them earn the qualifications they need. This support will give them a good start to their lives outside of formal education.
Allow Them To Make Their Own Mistakes
When your offspring is navigating the scary world of adult life and transitioning from a dependant teenager to a fully-fledged adult, it’s understandable that you might want to protect them from the realities of the world and help them overcome every obstacle. However, it’s important that you allow your child to make their own mistakes. Support them as much as you can but let them see that mistakes are a key part of life.
Every parent wants the best for their child, but sometimes it can feel like a challenge to get them the life they deserve, especially when they make decisions that you’re not confident with. These tips should help you to be supportive of your child’s decision and drive them towards the lifestyle they want.