It can be difficult to be a young girl. There is so much to worry about, the last thing we want to see our kids struggle with is loving who they are and everything they have to offer this world. As parents, we can teach girls to love themselves and everything about themselves if we give them the tools they need.
We all want our daughters to grow up and be confident and love themselves, but it’s often easier said than done, especially once they start getting older. Teaching girls to love themselves as they are is so critical. As parents, we can give our daughter the tools needed to help them improve, rebuild, or continue loving themselves, holding their heads high, and knowing something about their curly hair should be embraced.
As children grow older their image becomes more important to them, their social circle becomes more important, but so is doing what you can to boost their confidence. Teaching children to love themselves and everything about themselves can have a long-term impact on how they behave and the choices they make later in life. My husband and I are blessed with three confident girls, but things have not been easy. It’s taken a lot of work, but every last second of it is worth it when you see your daughter love herself.
Most of you know my three oldest children have had a hard life. When they were young, they lost their mom to drugs, and her side of the family has almost dropped off the face of the earth. Of course, things have been hard for them and them not understanding why their other family doesn’t contact them has affected their confidence. They wonder what is wrong with them, and it’s taken a lot of love to help them understand; it’s not them. It’s nothing about them that caused these people to make the poor choices they have made. We have helped them turn the other direction, and learn from their mistakes. I do know my children will never turn away from their loved ones because they do not want to cause anyone that pain.
I’m so proud of my kids, they are amazing, they have come so far in their little lives and dealt with so much already. It’s sad, but it’s also something that has helped mold them into the people they are, and they are AWESOME children.
Tips To Teach Girls To Love Themselves & Their Curls
Here are a few tips to help teach girls to love themselves and everything about themselves.
- Lead – As parents we have to lead by example. Don’t criticize yourself in front of your daughter, don’t make remarks about needing makeup to go out in public, and love yourself.
- Love her – Show them affection. Of course, we have to respect them as they get older too. They don’t want mommy running after them because they forgot to give them a kiss at 16, but a kiss on the cheek, or hug, before they leave, is an excellent way to show them you still care, but respect them.
- Say it – Tell your daughter you love them, they are beautiful, and if they have features they might complain about find tell them you love them. My daughter used to hate her curly hair, but now she loves them because they make her who she is, and she’s the lucky one with curly hair. I make it a point to tell her that I love her curls. She sees me curl my hair to try and obtain the results she gets naturally, and I make it a point to tell her. It’s helped her understand just how lucky she is!
- Complements – We all love compliments, right? Be sure and compliment her, but not just on her looks. Complement her on a job well done in school, sports, around the house, helping her sister, etc. It’s all about who she is that makes her a beautiful person.
- Expectations – Don’t set expectations they cannot reach. Make sure the expectations you set can be accomplished with a little bit of work. This way she will learn she is capable of doing anything she sets her mind to, and the rewarding feeling we get when we work for something.
- Be proud – Be proud of her. It’s okay if she knows you call your friend, grandma or anyone else to tell them how amazing she did in school, or about her latest softball game.
- The little things – Do little things for her. I recently created my daughter a “Love Your Curls” book at Dove.com, which she loves. I love it because I know her curls were something she was recently struggling with, and this just helps her keep her head high, and love those curls she is rocking.
- Tools – As our girls get older they want to do things with their hair, express themselves through their clothing, etc. Help give them the tools needed to do that – shampoo and conditioner for their hair type, haircare products, letting them explore different fashion, etc. Like I mentioned earlier, my daughter has curly hair, and she has had problems loving those curls, until recently. Providing her with the right tools to effectively manage her curls helps her love those curls. She recently started using Dove Quench Absolute products, which is for curly and course hair. We are already huge fans of Dove and their products, so I was excited when she told me how much she liked them.
Dove Quench Absolute is a three part system that not only nourishes hair, but provides 4X more defined, natural curls. The formulas are infused with all the right stuff – protein, nutrients, and even Buriti Oil and leave my daughters hair with a smooth, nourished finish. Vayda has the opportunity to try Dove Quench Absolute Ultra Nourishing Shampoo and Ultra Nourishing Conditioner, Dove Quench Absolute Intensive Restoration Mask (which I want for my hair, lol), and Dove Quench Absolute Supreme Crème Serum. Trying out the whole line, feeling results, and having her Dove haircare products has inspired Vayda to love her curls a little more. I also think it was a confident booster to see that they make haircare products and personalized books for those beautiful curls of hers. OH YES, there is a personalized book that you have to check out.
My youngest daughter has been doing anything she can try and get the curls her sister has, which I know is an added perk for Vayda. She’s an incredible sister because she has curled Mattie’s hard over and over just to make her happy. I love it when everyone is feeling good about themselves and getting along, lol.
It’s sad to think so many girls don’t like their curls because they are truly beautiful. Did you know that only 4 out of 10 women and girls with curly hair actually think their hair is fair and only 10% of women feel proud of their hair? Which is horrible when you consider that one in three women have curly hair in the US?
However, with your help spreading the word about Dove’s new “Love Your Curls” campaign and their outstanding NEW Love Your Curls book, which can be personalized and it’s FREE we can change that.
Most of you know I’m a huge fan of Dove, and it’s because of campaigns like the “Love Your Curls” campaign. See Dove hair wants women and girls to love their curls! To help them realize just how beautiful their curls are they have launched the “Love Your Curls” campaign, which is to encourage women to celebrate their curls, as well as inspire future generations to do the same.
Dove’s NEW Love Your Curls Book
Since girls tend to be more likely to feel beautiful and proud of their hair when people around them do, it’s important we join in and celebrate their curls too. Dove has an awesome NEW book which was inspired by the thousands of stories from women with curly hair. Dove’s NEW Love Your Curls book, written by best-selling author, Taiye Selasi, illustrated by Annick Poirier poems were inspired by real stories from real women and can be personalized. This book is a poetic tribute to curly hair, intended to represent and inspired all the women and girls with beautiful curly hair.
Be sure to download the NEW Love Your Curls book by visiting Dove.com, Amazon.com, and iTunes.com, it’s FREE and is an outstanding preconized e-book that you can dedicate and illustrate for a curly hair girl in your life.
Disclosure: We are proud to have partnered with Dove for this sponsored post. All opinion are our own.