I’m going to be honest, the thought of getting old scares me and the myths about sex and aging and all the other horror stories about getting older. Are they not terrifying?
The whole idea of getting older, well it sucks! I’m sure many of you can relate, I still see myself, well I still think I am a lot younger than I am. Well, that is until you see those stinking posts on facebook reminding you just how long certain movies have been out so you suddenly feel REALLY OLD and start thinking about just how old you are. Next thing you know you are thinking about how much your kids have grown up, how much more you wished you would have done and how you’ll never get those moments back.
Oh, and they don’t get me started on all the horrifying stories we have heard over the year to expect as we get older. Yeah, you’ll become irrelevant to anyone who’s younger than you, you’ve already hit the peak of your career, and so on. Oh, and let’s not forget about hearing about our sex life and how none existant it will become. Yes, you know to say goodbye to your sex drive, or so people say, but I think it’s time focus on the facts and disrupt aging.
Myths About Sex and Aging
Myth #1 – You stop having sex when you get old
NOT TRUE, everyone seems to think that you just up and stop having sex when you get older and seem to think that sex is only something young couples get to enjoy. It’s said that you lose the desire for sex and the feelings that comes along with it. However, that is not true! Your sex life is what you make it, at times it make take a little creativity and possibly lube but you do not have to stop enjoying because you are supposed to due to your age. Your sexual desire can still be there and you can still do something about it. And I’m going to be honest, I seriously doubt that just because I turn a certain age I’m going to toss my sex life out the window.
Myth #2 – His equipment stop working
Not true, while some men do experience issues, not all men do and the majority of those who do discover problems can visit their doctor for help.
Myth #3 – Hers does too
Okay, so maybe it’s not what it was when he was 25 but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t work. As a matter of fact, if a man does have erectile dysfunction there are steps he can take to do something about it. It doesn’t happen to all men, and if it happens to yours have him talk to his doctor because there are different options that can help.
Not true, women may suffer from vaginal dryness after menopause, but remember there are plenty of lubes for that!
Myth #4 – Older women don’t want sex when they are older
I seriously doubt this could be true, I mean maybe a decrease but I currently have to healthy sexual appetite and don’t see that changing just because I age. Yes, a women’s libido changes as they get older but that does not affect their ability to feel desired. They say the desire for sex changes after menopause because the hormones change and they no longer desire sex, which can be true but there are ways to fight back and a little more foreplay and lubricants might be needed but there is no age someone should stop enjoying sex.
Sex isn’t dangerous, it’s the possibility of hurting themselves because their bodies are not in as good of shape as it was when they were younger. Yet again, this is where you can get creative and find a different position that is easier on the body. There are a lot of option and position that will allow older adults to take part in sex. Plus, being sexually active can improve your mental, emotional and physical health.
Myth #7 – My body isn’t attractive anymore
If you’ve been with someone you love you already know that sex and the enjoyment we get from it doesn’t depend on the way someone looks. You don’t need a perfect body to be sexy to someone who loves you. Plus, define sexy?
Myth #8 An older adult women will lose her ability to have an organism as she ages
Simply not true, women can find increased sexual pleasure after menopause.
So here is what I think, your sex life is what you make it. Sure you get older and things change but there is no age limit or certain rules we have to live by as we get older. I mean seriously, who made these rules anyway?
Honestly, it depends who you talk to how bad and how many horrifying experiences we get to look forward to as we age.
Oh, and one more thing… The fact that you suddenly cannot do certain things because you are too old or even wear certain clothing because you are supposed to dress your age! OMG, see that’s where I start to see that all this stuff about aging isn’t true, sure it’s hard and there are downfalls but come on people what about the perks of being old and who in the world made these rules? I have to agree with the folks from the Disrupt Aging Mythbusting Campaign when they say, “It’s time to call the B.S. on the stories and rules that attempt to define us at any age!
The wonderful folks at Women Online/The Mission List is partnering up with the AARP’s #DisruptAging to rethink the negative stories we often tell ourselves about aging, upend the conversation and smash the stereotypes. And, the best thing is that this is a conversation for all generations!
Would you agree with the folks over at DisruptAging.org when they say, “It’s time to disrupt aging”? I know I sure, do! Bottom line, there are no rules to getting older, we write our own story and it’s time to disrupt aging!
his post is made possible with support from AARP’s Disrupt Aging. All opinions are my own.